7 Ways To Deal With Wedding Planning Stress

As much fun as weddings are, and even though it’s an incredibly happy day, there’s no denying that planning a wedding can be stressful.

Between months of planning, family coming together, and plenty of money put toward the day, it’s easy for tensions to run high. No matter how relaxed you might be or how simple your plans are, almost every couple feels stressed about their wedding.

If you want to enjoy your wedding day and start your marriage off with a happy beginning, follow these tips!


First, give yourself a break.

Turn off the TV, close your laptop, put your phone away, and disconnect. Whatever you’re doing that feels like an emergency will still be there in 20 minutes.

So unplug, and take a big breath. Run a bath, stretch out, go for a walk, or grab some snacks. If you unplug and relax, you’ll be able to go back into wedding planning with more focus and energy.

Hire a Planner

This is a big one! Having a wedding planner on your team takes the pressure off you. Your wedding planner can help you organize your vision, help you stick to your budget, and recommend vendors.

Something will go wrong because nothing is perfect, but a wedding planner will also be able to resolve situations as they arise. On the day of your wedding, your planner will take care of tasks, so you can enjoy the day ahead of you. That is definitely worth the investment.

Create a To-Do List

One of the biggest causes of wedding overwhelm comes from the mountain of tasks that seem to be ahead of you.

Without any game plan, these tasks can quickly create anxiety, procrastination, and panic.

To avoid panic, get all of your “to do” thoughts onto an actionable task list. Once you see everything laid out in writing, it never seems as impossible as it did in your head.

You can also take the organization to a higher level by scheduling your to-do list digital and setting calendar alerts or reminders, so you know that nothing will be overlooked.

Make Your Day What You Want

Anticipate the moments when you’re most likely to have stress or anxiety on the day, and skip them or make them more manageable for yourself. Don’t feel the need to stick to traditions if they don’t make you happy.

If a room full of people on your wedding morning, or the idea of making a speech stress you out, find ways to leave them out or make a plan for how to handle them.

If you have a wedding planner, tell them what you’re most worried about and how you’d like them to handle situations that arise on the wedding day.

Plan a Date Night

Your wedding is one of the most special milestones as a couple, but planning your big day could actually put a strain on your relationship.

It’s easy to get caught up in the planning, numbers, and deadlines and forget about the romance. Plan a date night occasionally to enjoy each other’s company (without talking about the wedding!). Whether you organize a fancy dinner date or simply stay home and watch Netflix, dedicate time for just the two of you.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

If you adopt one mantra for your wedding planning, let this be it!

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Although it’s easier said than done, the success rate is 100%. Whenever you find yourself getting stressed about wedding-related details, pause and ask, does this really matter?

If it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it. Letting the small stuff go will help you shift your perspective and focus on the bigger picture.

Remember Your Why

Finally, the very best tip I can give you to resolve stress from wedding planning: remember why you’re getting married!

At the end of the day, your wedding isn’t really about the party - even though it is a highlight.

Your wedding is about marrying the love of your life, sharing a meaningful commitment, and celebrating your love with your closest friends and family.

How special is that!

So whenever feelings of stress and anxiety start to arise, take a breath and refocus on what’s truly important.

Wedding planning should be fun and exciting. Yes, there are inevitable stresses, but you’re choosing to throw a big party, so make sure you enjoy it!

If you’re completely overwhelmed by the idea of planning a wedding or not enjoying the process at all, think about getting additional help from a wedding planner.

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